pain during PIV sexual intercourse

Did you know that 3/4 women have pain during sexual intercourse?
For some, it’s a temporary issue. Easily treatable or manageable.
For some it takes some experimenting in sexual positions, some work on things like kegel exercises and exploring more foreplay. Beyond “oh she’s wet, let’s hit that”.
For some it’s emotional (ie rape) trauma, for some a lousy lover/partner and for some it’s a treatable medical condition.
But whatever it is, or isn’t, it shouldn’t be ignored.
Attached is some info on the medical conditions:
It is NOT about him being too big for her!
## . . . . sources
**en·dor·phin**
ˌenˈdôrfēn/Submit
noun BIOCHEMISTRY
plural noun: endorphins
any of a group of hormones secreted within the brain and nervous system and having a number of physiological functions. They are peptides that activate the body’s opiate receptors, causing an analgesic effect.

http://www.blackwellreference.com/public/tocnode?id=g9781405161251_chunk_g97814051612517_ss1-11

http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/art.asp?articlekey=55001
https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3104618/
http://www.webmd.com/depression/guide/exercise-depression#1

**PAIN DURING SEX**

http://www.acog.org/-/media/For-Patients/faq020.pdf
http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/guide/female-pain-during-sex#1
http://www.obgyn.net/pmspmdd/painful-intercourse
http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/sex-hurts

**KEGEL EXERCISES**

http://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/womens-health/in-depth/kegel-exercises/art-20045283
http://www.everydayhealth.com/sexual-health/kegel-exercises-to-tone-vaginal-muscles.aspx

religous head gear and it’s context

I’m often surprised by the over focus on the hijab Muslim women wear. Mostly cuzz I grew up in an area wear Mennonite, and Amish women and men wore head dresses. And were covered from head to toe. Whatever the weather was.

Women and men from a few cultures and religions wear head coverings as mandated/ as signs of piety toward their god(s). It might have also begun as protection from the weather (ie desert sand storms) and also from pests (bugs).

[Malaria][https://www.cdc.gov/malaria/about/faqs.html] is an issue in most of the origin lands where head coverings are cultural.

Quite a few religions give life advice in their holy books to their faithful. What/how to eat,  what/how to dress, … So suggesting they’d be better off with a head dress isn’t outside that realm. And some of the faithful believe they should take these thing literally.

Same as religious practice among early people was to have totems for their tribes. And it was forbidden to eat that animal. To this day, there are those who still refuse to eat their cultural totems.

Some of the food restrictions could also be because the holy books were written before refrigeration and by people who lived  in deserts. So things like blood and scavenger animals brought a higher risk of death.

Also, when Christianity was being developed and advice was given to the followers, Paul mentioned food that pagans offered to their gods as sacrifices as being unwise for Christians to eat.

It’s in that context that the faithful decide whether or not they will wear the head gear.  Based on practices from 1000s of years ago.

So why is it there is such a focus on the hijab? I don’t get it.

 

## . . . . sources

https://modli.co/blog/why-do-women-cover-their-hair
https://www.amish-heartland.com/features/2014/10/02/of-brims-and-bonnets
https://themennonite.org/feature/veiled-free/
https://www.islamreligion.com/articles/2770/why-muslim-women-wear-veil/
https://www.sikhcoalition.org/about-sikhs/faq/
http://uhaweb.hartford.edu/greenberg-center/Veiled%20Women%20Catalog.pdf
http://www.wilderness-safaris.com/blog/posts/the-significance-of-head-ties-in-africa

the words in feminism are changing

Why?
> It could be because some women are saying that feminism doesn’t include them

But feminism began to [give women the right to vote][http://womensuffrage.org/?page_id=69] and to recognize us as people rather than chattel under the law, [so we can inherit and hold property.][https://www.theguardian.com/global-development/2015/sep/09/women-business-and-the-law-2016-getting-to-equal-world-bank-report]
That’s going well in North America and Europe, but is it world wide yet? Nope.

> It could be because feminazis have dirtied our rep.

Yeah well… there are extremists in every group.

> And it could be because there is more than one kind of oppression.

So in order to recognize what we go thru, we need to change the words now and then. Feminism was meant to support and include after all.

## . . . . sources

[equity vs equality][http://sgba-resource.ca/en/concepts/equity/distinguish-between-equity-and-equality/]

## . . . . kyriarchy
coined by [Elisabeth Schussler Fiorenza][https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elisabeth_Schüssler_Fiorenza]
in her 2001 book, Wisdom Ways: Introducing Feminist Biblical Interpretation.
[CV][http://hwpi.harvard.edu/files/hds/files/schusslerfiorenza0510.pdf]
https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2010/sep/10/kyriarchy-and-patriarchy
http://groupthink.kinja.com/kyriarchy-vs-patriarchy-whaddaya-say-gt-1336035264
http://journals.sagepub.com/doi/abs/10.1177/1473095213516443

## . . . . social bias
[social biases, prejudice and discrimination][http://jghcs.info/index.php/l/article/viewFile/62/63]

## . . . . privilege
[Peggy McIntosh][https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peggy_McIntosh]
[CV][https://www.wcwonline.org/Active-Researchers/peggy-mcintosh-phd]
[Peggy McIntosh’s essay on privilege][https://www.deanza.edu/faculty/lewisjulie/White%20Priviledge%20Unpacking%20the%20Invisible%20Knapsack.pdf]
[forms of privilege][http://mediasmarts.ca/diversity-media/privilege-media/forms-privilege]
[pause for thought- an interesting “fun” test][https://www.buzzfeed.com/regajha/how-privileged-are-you?utm_term=.jj8g14ExM#.npQARDo2j]

## . . . .intersectionality
[Kimberle Williams Crenshaw][https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kimberlé_Williams_Crenshaw]
[CV][https://law.ucla.edu/faculty/faculty-profiles/kimberle-w-crenshaw/]
[Crenshaw’s Mapping the Margins-intersectionality][http://socialdifference.columbia.edu/files/socialdiff/projects/Article__Mapping_the_Margins_by_Kimblere_Crenshaw.pdf]

**pls read the links. You might learn something!**

The Ghosts’ Performance

All the live people had left the theater and were taking a night off. But they had left a single footlight on center, frontstage for the spirits of the theater. So when they were pretty sure the people wouldn’t be returning unexpectedly, the ghosts came out to play.

The crew put the furniture into place; the choir (or as some called it the greek chorus) practiced their mimicry of the main actors; and the three witches practiced the opening lines of “the Scottish play”.

First Witch When shall we three meet again
In thunder, lightning, or in rain?
Second Witch When the hurlyburly’s done,
When the battle’s lost and won.
Third Witch That will be ere the set of sun.
First Witch Where the place?
Second Witch Upon the heath.
Third Witch There to meet with …cough cough (name redacted for luck’s sake!!).
First Witch I come, graymalkin!
Second Witch Paddock calls.
Third Witch Anon!
ALL Fair is foul, and foul is fair:
Hover through the fog and filthy air.

It seems even the dead take superstition seriously in the theater!! (snicker)
The director smiled and let them get away with the redaction in practice.

Next up for practice was MacDuff. A good man by all accounts till his hand was forced in vengeance, and few would blame him.

I cannot but remember such things were,
That were most precious to me. Did heaven look on,
And would not take their part? Sinful Macduff,
They were all struck for thee! naught that I am,
Not for their own demerits, but for mine,
Fell slaughter on their souls. Heaven rest them now!

and the Scot King himself practiced his last words

I will not yield,
To kiss the ground before young Malcolm’s feet,
And to be baited with the rabble’s curse.
Though Birnam wood be come to Dunsinane,
And thou opposed, being of no woman born,
Yet I will try the last. Before my body
I throw my warlike shield. Lay on, Macduff,
And damn’d be him that first cries, ‘Hold, enough!’

Then the director kindly gave notes to the cast and crew before their final dress rehearsal began. It was a complete, non-stop run-thru. Some of the cast were quite nervous, but there were others who were quite bored actually. In their incarnations of spirit, they had done this play many times and were ready to kill the king themselves!
One couple found a place in the rafters to make out. Another found a closet where none were likely to intrude and she gave him a good blow. They got back just in the nick of time to take their part in the rehearsal order.
Though ghosts being ghosts, all present were well aware of what the couples had been up to and there were a few snickers. The director just glared at them.
Finally the run-thru was finished and they had a break before the notes to grab whatever version of snack and stretching their legs is done by ghosts.
The director was quite pleased by their efforts and had little to do but fine tune the speeches and asked the witches to go over their opening again before he called the day over.

First Witch When shall we three meet again
In thunder, lightning, or in rain?
Second Witch When the hurlyburly’s done,
When the battle’s lost and won.
Third Witch That will be ere the set of sun.
First Witch Where the place?
Second Witch Upon the heath.
Third Witch There to meet with …cough cough (name redacted for luck’s sake!!).
First Witch I come, graymalkin!
Second Witch Paddock calls.
Third Witch Anon!
ALL Fair is foul, and foul is fair:
Hover through the fog and filthy air.

The director smiled at their silliness about the name again and let the cast leave. He and the stage manager needed to discuss a few things yet. Things had to be just perfect after all!
This was their last chance to rehearse before the live people took over the stage once more. Next time they gathered, there would be a crowd of famous ghosts in the audience. And all had to go well! His name depended on it.