Command, Motivate, Suggest, Manipulate, Coerce, Expect, Empower
Command Motivate Suggest Manipulate Coerce Expect Empower …..
Words that mean you are trying to guide or dominate someone else’s behaviour. Words that have negative and positive connotations. Words that are used in law, parenting and in BDSM.
And often the difference between those meanings and the results are how much autonomy the person you are trying to guide or dominate is left with. And how much you can rely on them doing as you ask when you’re out of sight. Whether they accept that there is good reason for your suggestion of how they should act. Whether it actually makes sense for their life.
Or if they give up hope and just do as you say. Become your automaton.
So the first thing you have to decide is how much you want them to actually think and feel for themselves. From there you find the tone you need to take in your handling of them and your relationship.
It isn’t easy, or quick. And it can be messed up. And before you use any of these, or some dance of all of them, there are two people you need to get to know: you and the person you need to guide or dominate. So the step you take before you find your groove is
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