#E-reading (a story)


Mercy had always been an avid reader. There were usually half a dozen books on her nightstand, and an array of magazines too. And with the advent of e-reading, she had even more on her reading list. And now she also had more time to do the reading. No travelling to and from work, no getting all gussied up for people who would never appreciate either her looks or her effort. And they also didn’t understand that she hated doing it.

Mercy knew she was in the wrong line of work for her fashion tastes. She was a tee and jeans or shorts and tank type. Not day dresses and suits. Srsly! She got a friend to do her shopping she hated them that much.

But this story isn’t about fashion, or lack of. lol

With this sudden extra time, Mercy decided to write an analysis of what she was reading. In some cases about the one book. In others, about a comparitive analysis. By author, genre or topic.

Mercy sent them to friends at first. Then she posted them as blogs, on sites that they might fit on. Then when they got a good reception, she started sending them out to editors, with her resume.

And she waited… and read…. and wrote more… sent more out…posted more. And recycled that list.

Till one day! Mercy received her first letters. At first she thought it was a good sign. They noticed her. Till she realized they were critiquing her. And refusing her.

She did take some of their hints and re-posted the varied versions. Sometimes people liked those better, but sometimes they thought she had suppressed her voice. Well she didn’t want that.

How do you take criticism without changing who you are as a writer?

How do you change the minutia of the piece without losing the tone you had wanted?

Mercy wasn’t sure she wanted to struggle. Maybe it was a matter of finding her own audience? Or the right fit of editor? Someone who did less edit and more airbrush?

For now, she had the time to explore her options, so Mercy was going to take it. And enjoy it. In art as in life, it’s the journey that counts.

Board Meetings in Jammies (a story)

Board Meetings in Jammies

Working at home certainly had it’s perks! And not having to get all dolled up was absolutely one of them. Jammies were the new normal. And Jill loved that! She threw on a suit jacket over her jammies whenever she had to do skype or video conferences and calls.

Her boss might not have been thrilled with her new work schedule. but ain’t no WAY she was going to be up at 4 am since she didn’t have to get showered, dressed, and catch 2-3 buses to start her work day at 8:30 am.

She was now impressed with herself if she rolled out of bed by 11 am. But all the work she was meant to do got done. By midnight. All day deadlines met. So what was there to complain about? I mean really?

And hubby was glad to have her to himself more. They were having more sex, cuzz neither was exhausted at the endless commuting as well as the work schedule. And they woke gently as well.

They often took lunch breaks, and played the game that they were having an affair. Candles went on the lunch table and they used their good china. It sometimes led to even more sex. Jill did notice she often was chafed and walked a little different.

With no one to exclaim if she had bruises, they were getting more adventurous as well.

It was like being on a honeymoon.

TBH neither of them wanted things to go back to before. But since they knew it would, they were taking full advantage.

They both wore silly grins. A lot.

Covid 19 update.

Covid 19 update.

Covid 19

  • WHO declared it a Public Health Emergency of International Concern on 30 January 2020
  • March 11, 2020, WHO declared the novel coronavirus (COVID-19) outbreak a global pandemic
  • as of April 26, 2020 the mortality rate is just above 7% worldwide according to the ECDC

Global cases: More than 2.9 million
Global deaths: At least 203,055
Most cases reported: United States (939,249), Spain (223,759), Italy (195,351), France (161,644), and Germany (156,513).
(The data above was compiled by Johns Hopkins University)

China reported 11 new confirmed cases and no additional deaths as of April 25, according to its National Health Commission. And all
Wuhan coronavirus patients have been discharged from hospital.

Are we done? Nope. But that is good news.

Remdesivir studies expect to have an answer by May’s end.
and IV vitamin C studies are expected to have an answer by fall.
Meantime symptom mgmt is helping some people to recover.


Does anyone else see a light at the other end of the tunnel? I do! But then I was actually looking for that, instead of catastrophizing. We’re talking weeks, not years. So wash your hands, keep distant and take Acetaminophen if you develop symptoms. (that is **not ** my recommendation)

What has it taken to get here though? Borders closed around the world and lots of money!! Dedicated scientists and doctors. Frontline workers getting sick and some dying to help us thru it. Please don’t fuck it up now.
It can end at round one, if we stay the course!

An Anarchist Flying thru Covid 19

An Anarchist Flying thru Covid 19

I don’t get on wagons easily (if you have followed me for awhile, you may have noticed this). I don’t like crowds, even with the threat of a pandemic influencing my judgment. I much, much prefer independent thought.

And sometimes I wonder how to get others to consider thinking for themselves. But they’d probably say that I should think like their group, cuzz they are right.

That is a hard call though when that group sides with authority just because that is who they are. They don’t consider if that authority is actually specific to the matter at hand.

For eg, not all doctors are created equal. They did go to medical school, and it’s possible they attended theoretical discussions in class on epidemics, viruses, germs. But they may have done their rotations in something totally unrelated. How long ago was that class anyways?

So do you listen to them as if they are virologists? Probably not.

The police and public health are asking us to avoid crowds. And that seems sensible. Crowds spread germs. There is a reason why they are called contagions. The more you are around people, the more people you are around, the more likely that one person with the virus is there.

Which is great. So long as we remember that the people doing those jobs are still human.

Mostly I am a huge fan of first responders. But now and then I have a moment of doubt. And this week, here it is.

On one hand, there is a call for demonstrations to be shut down, due to the risk of contagion. The crowd may be dispersed, but that seems to be all they do.

UNTIL… this week a church who is a bit of a thorn in the sides of local and national issues is facing charges if they find a way to congregate that doesn’t break the quarantines. They wouldn’t be entering the church, or meeting with people either. They’d be in their cars, with the windows shut, listening to the radio. Basically. But they could wave and smile at people they care about. And feel a little more connected. They are the ones who face charges.

Not the demonstrators outside the premier of Ontario’s office who want a coffee. Nothing happens to them. What are they asking for? Certainly nothing like freedom of religion. They want to be able to congregate face to face.

It doesn’t strike me as fair at all.

It’s moments like this for me… knowing that the POTUS is rabble rousing demonstrators across the states, to get his country’s vote this fall. Knowing this whole process could be postponed. Among a few other dufus things that have reached new heights.

And a church is being hassled because they are trying to work for their community, within the guidelines.

I just don’t know why this is even an issue, except for previous bad feelings maybe?

So I’m curious… what are my thoughts supposed to be this week? Is authority right? Is authority always right? Do we always have to listen to them? And what about when they conflict? What about when they conflict with the laws of the country? What about when they conflict with what is right/just?

When do we listen to authority?

But then should I be even asking this type of question now?

#whenthegroceryboycomestoyourhome (a story)


There is always that one, right?  I guess it depends on your age if he is the manager/owner or the stock boy who you took one look at and started to drool?
And you had that fantasy… of how fast his shirt would hit the floor.  Of how often you had to hump his leg before he’d either slap you or take you up on your offer. Of how good it’d be.
But now when you could finally justify the delivery fee, and the laziness of having them delivered (Or is that just me who thinks that way?), you’re not allowed to touch even the card reader, let alone him.
So what do you do?
Get a stripper-gram?  Though you’d have to let them freeze outside as they bared themselves. And the neighbours would get to see as well.  You know the little old lady next door would giggle, a few of the guys’d be into it as. But there’d be that prude as well.  Who’d wreck it for everyone else by calling the cops and making an indecency complaint.
Le sigh!
And with that mixed head-space, you begin to fill out the order. Click the virtual items you need to make up your shopping list.  Save the list…. and go spend some time on your couch… then start again. Shop, touch yourself and shop again.
Until you finally have the list complete and enter your credit card info and your loyalty points. Book your appt for them to shop and you to have it delivered. And send!
And wait for days, thinking of that guy putting on a show for the neighbours. It has to be him, right?
Or does it?
When he gets there, it’s not him  (pout, pout, pout!!) and your panties feel like they walked thru the Sahara Desert. He doesn’t look that thrilled either btw. Sighs!
And you chip tap  the credit reader for the delivery fee and the tip.  Sum B!  I mean they’d have gotten a bigger tip if it had been your lust object, right?
Then again, it might have been way toooooo haaaaaard to keep yourself from humping his leg. Pfffft!

#ArmChairTravelling (a story)


Serena had always wanted to travel. She was a huge art lover and had wanted to see the top museums and art galleries of the world.  But unless she won the lottery, that wasn’t likely.
So she went to the library and scrounged the art books and saw the buildings where they were housed as well. Just adoring the architecture as well as the changing exhibits. She got to know their fave artists and found books of their best known pieces as well.
And she saved her money for the day she might actually be able to go.
She was at the library almost every day. You could find her there if you knew where to look, and when of course!
Till the day the announcement went out that the library was closing.
She nearly howled!  Her passion, her time, her joy all gone in one fell swoop.
And she cried… First she had no money, now she had no library either. What was she going to do?
Serena confided in a friend.  Who happily showed her the web-sites of her fave galaries and museums.  Serena used her little bit of savings to join the sites and take their virtual tours. She saved some of ther faves, so she could take them over and over.
Till she found out the staff of the galleries and museums were prohibited from working with the public.  They couldn’t even gather to prepare the new site materials.  To prepare the exhibit changes.
Serena howled!
And went running back to her friend for advice.  She couldn’t bare being separated from her joy, her reason for being.
And found out that the major museums and galleries may be closed, Their web-sites left as if frozen, but each major artist had their own web-site.  And you could still see their major works and see their piece-briefs.
So Serena would spend hours looking at each artist’s body of work.  Enjoying reading about each piece, and looking at them in their glory.  Over and over.
And her friend also suggested googling that artist and asking if there were similar schools, or themes that she might like.
This meant that Serena was exposed to names of artists she had never seen before.
And she just revelled in these explorations.  Becoming more and more knowledgeable about the best of the best.  In a way she could never have done had she travelled by boat or plane.
Now and then, she went to her grocer’s and picked up an international sauce and put it in her barest of rice and chicken.  And lit a candle. It made it seem like she was having dinner out before her tour of the gallery or museum.
Serena was happy, while the library, galleries and museums were inaccessible.  Because she had found a way to modify her needs so she got what she wanted, needed and still felt the joy, the passion of art.
Till the one day when the musuems and galleries, or maybe the library could re-open.
And she dreamed of the day when she could see the art in person. Don’t get me wrong.  But she treasured what she could have, while it was all she could have.
Glad of the friend who was able to tip her off on how to make her love possible when each obstacle arose.  Until the obstacles were gone.
And then Serena went back to the library and sat in the art stacks again.  Scrounging over the books. For hours.
And she looked at all the sites she had grown to love as well.  And just loved what she could have a bit more.

Canada’s Bill C-223, the Workers Mourning Day Act, April 28, 2020 – While 100 + countries @the world gear up for the day of mourning

Canada’s Bill C-223, the Workers Mourning Day Act, April 28, 2020 – While 100 + countries @the world gear up for the day of mourning

This year’s aim of the CCOHS, World Bank, ILO, and UN is to recognize the workers who have died, or become ill due to Covid 19. The essential workers who have cared for and supported us during a pandemic. Nurses, doctors and other frontline workers have put their health and lives on the line to help us.

history of April 28

In December 1990, following years of lobbying efforts by Canadian unions and the NDP, the federal government passed Bill C-223, the Workers Mourning Day Act, make April 28, 1991 the first government recognized National Day of Mourning. The Act is a brief piece of legislation, which reads, in part:
This movement quickly spread outside of Canada. In the United States in 1989, the American Federation of Labour began to recognize April 28th as Workers’ Memorial Day. The United Kingdom (UK) began their campaign to recognize this day in 1992. Workers’ Memorial Day was adopted by the Scottish Trade Union Congress (TUC) in 1993, the UK TUC in 1999 and the UK Health and Safety Commission in 2000. The International Labour Organization (ILO) and the International TUC (ITUC) declared the International Day of Mourning in 1996. Let us carry on the international cry to: “MOURN for the Dead and FIGHT for the Living!”

Trump’s position on PPE

To get re-elected, to put the economy first, to make money he has withheld PPE from frontline workers during a pandemic. He is a pirate, not a governor. They are his workers that his country cannot do without. Other countries, including Canada, are sending him people to help out as his nation takes the lead in the contagion and it’s deaths. We are allowing them to cross our closed border to help him out, and sending these people. And he leaves them without protection. Every death of those people is on his profiteering head. We as a country are leaving ourselves open to a contagion from the worst country/epicenter atm to help his with these human beings. And he won’t give them free PPE…. How do you think that makes Canadians feel? As the contagion we are getting still spreads. A good part of which are due to his decisions about our people.

“MOURN for the Dead and FIGHT for the Living!”


Trump, Cuomo lag in coronavirus PPE push, says nurses union – New York Daily News
A top New York State nurses union leader urged Gov. Cuomo and President Trump to step up their efforts to get more protective gear in the hands of frontline medical workers. “We’re losing …


‘Lord of the Flies: PPE Edition’: U.S. cast as culprit in global scrum over coronavirus supplies – POLITICO
A medical face shield rests on boxes of gloves as nurses at Harborview Medical Center in Seattle hold a pre-shift meeting in a triage tent. The face shield was 3-D printed and assembled by a …


‘Swept Up by FEMA’: Complicated Medical Supply System Sows Confusion – The New York Times
The Trump administration’s new method for distributing medical supplies has led to charges of confiscation. By Zolan Kanno-Youngs and Jack Nicas WASHINGTON — In Massachusetts, state leaders …


As U.S. Hospitals Face Shortages, Trump Vows to Send Ventilators—to Europe | Vanity Fair
As the coronavirus pandemic has continued to worsen exponentially across the U.S., President Donald Trump has finally acknowledged the need for the increased production of ventilators in recent …

common dreams

‘Moronic But Consistent’: Outrage Over Trump Admin Giving PPE to Private Companies, Not States | Common Dreams News
Illinois Gov. J.B. Pritzker on Monday evening said that a White House initiative to airlift needed protective equipment to healthcare workers in the U.S. is redirecting the supplies to private companies, forcing states in desperate need of medical supplies to bid against one another, leading Pritzker and others to go directly to manufacturers.


cute calendar
worldbank’s plan of recovery
Hatheway LEC

Wednesday, April 22 International Mother Earth Day 2020 – 50th anniverary!

globe of world Value+Plus+World+Map+Area+RugWednesday, April 22 International Mother Earth Day 2020 – 50th anniverary!

Wednesday, April 22
International Mother Earth Day 2020

is the 50th anniverary for Canada and 192 other nations that celebrate it.
So how are we doing as a country?

Canada signed the Copenhagen Accord in December 2009

Canada signed the Kyoto Protocol in 1997, but developments were not made to ratify the agreement until 2002. …

Canada on Paris climate target

Since 1929, we have learned so much about economics

Since 1929, we have learned so much about economics

Times have changed since 1929. We have made great strides in economic understanding and the ability and willingness of govts and their alliances to work together.

Yes we’ve had other financial woes, but during this pandemic, we’ve also shown a willingness to adapt in a way that has never been done before.

Yes the DOW and the markets have been playing see-saw, but that happens whenever people get worried.

BUT because of the pandemic, businesses were willing to find ways to have their employees work from home wherever possible. Restaurants went to take out and delivery instead of mostly eat-in models.

And we do still have essential services, like health care, grocers, car parts and maintenance and utilities whose employees are pretty much guaranteed employment. By law.

We have tech support services to help us thru the transition to home-work.

And as far as the environment goes, this pandemic may actually have done us a favour. To the point where govts might actually be encouraged to push businesses to continue work from home plans where possible. And this time, they might just comply. If their employees show they can be trusted to actually work.

So our system is shifting to meet the needs of this pandemic in a way that has the future actually looking better for us.

And who knows? All the cooperation for Covid 19 plans of action between govts and businesses might actually reduce the war machine.

If we can stay the course…

Because if we don’t, what we will have is wave after wave of pandemics and the population of the world will be desimated. With no way to protect the critical people. And we might end up back in earlier times, having to rebuild from cottage and farm industries to the tech and war machine world we have now.

So yes, there needs to be change. But this isn’t the first time the entire world has had to shift it’s course to survive.

Who in this will you be? The one who gives up; or does everything they can to buck the people trying to see us thru this; or someone who does their best to struggle thru and will see the better future this world could have?

For now you are being asked to wash up and limit your travels. For now you are being asked to tough it out.

The army isnt at your door because of riots or rising criminal behaviours. There is no martial law.

We still have food and gas. We can still stay in touch with our loved ones. And the govts and banks are fighting to stabilize the economy. And the pandemic. Instead of each other. Well for the most part.

A bit of common sense is all we need to ease the transitions we need to make. We can do that, can’t we?


…. from thebalance.com

….. What Is a Recession?

In a recession, gross domestic product contracts for at least two quarters. But that’s not all. There are many more economic indicators that signal a recession. That’s because GDP growth will usually slow for several quarters before it turns negative. That’s in response to sluggish consumer demand.

….. What Is a Depression?

A depression is an extended recession that has years, not quarters, of economic contraction. It’s more severe than a recession. Unemployment reaches 25%, housing prices plummet 30%, and prices fall 10%. The devastation of a depression is so great that the effects of the Great Depression lasted for decades after it ended.


The best way to find out if we are in a recession or a depression is to understand where we are in the business cycle. The recession follows the peak of the business cycle. It’s signaled by irrational exuberance and asset bubbles.


depression on the scale of that in 1929 could not happen exactly the way it did before. Central banks around the world, including the U.S. Federal Reserve, are more aware of the importance of monetary policy in regulating the economy.

……. from the weforum

In a bewildering raft of financial measures around the world, the European Central Bank launched new bond purchases worth 750 billion euros ($817 billion). That brought some relief to bond markets and also halted European shares’ slide.

The U.S. Federal Reserve rolled out its third emergency credit programme in two days, aimed at keeping the $3.8 trillion money market mutual fund industry functioning. The Bank of England cut interest rates to 0.1%, its second emergency rate cut in just over a week.

China was to unleash trillions of yuan of fiscal stimulus and South Korea pledged 50 trillion won ($39 billion).

……from Harvard

U.S. economist Irving Fisher argued that price instability (inflation and deflation) was the cause of most economic turbulence and could be averted by astute central bankers. Keynes agreed with this but thought it was not enough. One of his main observations was that although an individual is perfectly rational in wanting to hunker down and hoard his money during tough times, everyone’s hunkering down at the same time only makes things worse. Government needs to step in and avert such downward spirals by temporarily spending much more than it takes in.

Catastrophizing, Ruminating, or Finding Where You Actually HAVE Control and Doing that

Catastrophizing, Ruminating, or Finding Where You Actually HAVE Control and Doing that

How are you coping? in a world where the govt, the media and social groups are telling you it’s the zombie apocalypse, how are you dealing with this?

I have some reassurances for you…

  • You may feel like you’re alone, but you’re not.
  • Yes, you are being lied to and people are exaggerating. They are blustering because they need to feel in control and important. So you do need to sort out what seems logical for yourself.
  • Yes it is bad (but that crystal ball that shows 450 Million will die from this has to go back to the factory for repairs!) and yes people really are getting sick and some are dying. That doesn’t mean it will be you or someone you love. Know the difference between protecting those you love, feeling sorry for those who are ill or grieving and getting sucked into an emotional black hole you can’t get out of.
  • And find the things you can and should do to be ok and protect those you love.
  • Wash your hands! Often! (pro-tip- moisturize too cuzz cracked skin is more of a threat than dirty hands are)
  • Stay 2M/6ft apart! Limit the crowds you have to go into. You can always come back later.
  • Limit your traveling to what you need to do to stay fed, sheltered and clean.
  • Stay in touch with people with all those devices you have been using for the past few decades.
  • Check on your neighbours. Esp the frail.
  • Those masks? They can actually be more of a threat to you if you don’t know how to/ have the resources to keep them sterile, and the sense to change and clean them between outtings. And if you are hoarding them? You are risking the lives of caretakers and the frail. Just so you know that.

With that? Be sensible and be safe. This too shall pass. No, I mean that! Yes I’m sure! (My crystal ball is in excellent condition!!)



Yes the economics of this really really suck and will for some time.

…..notes/sources on Catastrophizing, Ruminating and Problem Solving

Catastrophizing is an irrational thought a lot of us have in believing that something is far worse than it actually is.

Catastrophizing can generally can take two different forms: making a catastrophe out of a current situation, and imagining making a catastrophe out of a future situation.



Put the problem into perspective: How does this compare to other things humans face?

Take the 30,000-foot view approach: In the future will I be thinking back to this problem?

This too shall pass: Have I experienced this in the past and did I get through it?

Look for patterns: Does this happen often and can I find ways to circumvent these issues?

Beware of over-generalizations: Am I responding by saying, “This always happens,” or “This happens every time?”

psychology professor Ryan Martin



Ambiguity or being vague can open a person up to catastrophic thinking.

An example would be getting a text message from a friend or partner that reads, “We need to talk.”

This vague message could be something positive or negative, but a person cannot know which of these it is with just the information they have. So they may start to imagine the very worst news.


Relationships and situations that a person holds in high value can result in a tendency to catastrophize. When something is particularly significant to a person, the concept of loss or difficulty can be harder to deal with.

An example would be applying for a job that a person wants. They may start to imagine the great disappointment, anxiety, and depression they will experience if they do not get the job before the organization has even made any decisions.


Fear, especially irrational fear, plays a big part in catastrophizing. If a person is scared of going to the doctor, they could start to think about all the bad things a doctor could tell them, even if they are just going for a check-up.

A person may also experience catastrophizing related to a medical condition or past event in their life.

Acknowledging that unpleasant things happen: Life is full of challenges as well as good and bad days. Just because one day is bad does not mean all days will be bad.
Recognizing when thoughts are irrational: Catastrophizing often follows a distinct pattern. A person will start with a thought, such as “I am hurting today.” They will then expand on the thought with worry and anxiety, such as, “The pain is only going to get worse,” or “This hurting means I’ll never get better.” When a person learns to recognize these thoughts, they are better equipped to handle them.
Saying “stop!”: To cease the repetitive, catastrophic thoughts, a person may have to say out loud or in their head “stop!” or “no more!” These words can keep the stream of thoughts from continuing and help a person change the course of their thinking.
Thinking about another outcome: Instead of thinking about a negative outcome, consider a positive one or even a less-negative option.
Offering positive affirmations: When it comes to catastrophic thinking, a person has to believe in themselves and that they can overcome their tendency to fear the worst. They may wish to repeat a positive affirmation to themselves on a daily basis.
Practicing excellent self-care: Catastrophic thoughts are more likely to take over when a person is tired and stressed. Getting enough rest and engaging in stress-relieving techniques, such as exercise, meditation, and journaling, can all help a person feel better.
medical news today


Problematic thought styles include:

Catastrophizing. Seeing only the worst possible outcome in everything. For example, your child might think that because he failed his algebra test he will get an F for the semester, everyone will know he’s stupid, the teacher will hate him, you will ground him, and moreover, he’ll never get into college, and on and on. No matter what soothing words or solutions you try to apply, he’ll insist that there’s no remedy.
Minimization. Another side of catastrophizing, this involves minimizing your own good qualities, or refusing to see the good (or bad) qualities of other people or situations. People who minimize may be accused of wearing rose-colored glasses, or of wearing blinders that allow them to see only the worst. If a person fails to meet the minimizer’s high expectations in one way–for example, by being dishonest on a single occasion–the minimizer will suddenly write the person off forever, refusing to see any good characteristics that may exist.
Grandiosity. Having an exaggerated sense of self-importance or ability. For example, your child may fancy herself the all-time expert at soccer, and act as though everyone else should see and worship her fabulous skill as well. She may think she can run the classroom better than her “stupid” teacher, or feel that she should be equal in power to her parents or other adults.
Personalization. A particularly unfortunate type of grandiosity that presumes you are the center of the universe, causing events for good or ill that truly have little or nothing to do with you. A child might believe his mean thoughts made his mother ill, for example.
Magical thinking. Most common in children and adults with obsessive-compulsive disorder, but seen in people with bipolar disorders as well. Magical thinkers come to believe that by doing some sort of ritual they can avoid harm to themselves or others. The ritual may or may not be connected with the perceived harm, and sufferers tend to keep their rituals secret. Children are not always sure what harm the ritual is fending off; they may simply report knowing that “something bad will happen” if they don’t touch each slat of the fence or make sure their footsteps end on an even number. Others may come to feel that ritual behavior will bring about some positive event.
Leaps in logic. Making seemingly logic-based statements, even though the process that led to the idea was missing obvious steps. Jumping to conclusions, often negative ones. One type of logical leap is assuming that you know what someone else is thinking. For instance, a teenager might assume that everyone at school hates her, or that anyone who is whispering is talking about her. Another common error is assuming that other people will naturally know what you are thinking, leading to great misunderstandings when they don’t seem to grasp what you’re talking about or doing.
“All or nothing” thinking. Being unable to see shades of gray in everyday life can lead to major misperceptions and even despair. A person who thinks only in black-and-white terms can’t comprehend small successes. He’s either an abject failure or a complete success, never simply on his way to doing better.
Paranoia. In its extreme forms, paranoia slides into the realm of delusion. Many bipolar people experience less severe forms of paranoia because of personalizing events, catastrophizing, or making leaps in logic. A teen with mildly paranoid thoughts might feel that everyone at school is watching and judging him, when in fact he’s barely on their radar screen.
Delusional thinking. Most of the other thought styles mentioned above are mildly delusional. Seriously delusional thinking has even less basis in reality, and can include holding persistently strange beliefs. For example, a child may insist that he was kidnapped by aliens, and really believe that it is true.


3 Psychological Mechanisms related to Catastrophizing
Psychological research on chronic pain and catastrophizing has uncovered three types of mechanisms related to catastrophizing

How to Overcome Catastrophizing

  1. Mindful awareness

You have to catch yourself having cognitive distortions to be able to do anything about them,

  1. Consider Other Possible Outcomes

Consider positive predictions, neutral predictions, and mildly negative predictions, not just very negative predictions.

  1. Make a Distinction Between “Significantly Unpleasant” and “Catastrophe”
    The key to overcoming catastrophizing is making a distinction between something being significantly unpleasant and it being a catastrophe. Failing an important exam would be extremely distressing but it does not doom the individual to a life of failure.
  2. Increase your perception of your ability to cope.

If you believe you can cope with negative events, anxiety will be much less of a problem for you.

Types of Catastrophizing
The common types of catastrophes people tend to imagine include:

Imagining yourself losing control. For example, an individual with panic disorder predicts that if they go to the mall on a weekend afternoon, they will have a panic attack. They predict that having a panic attack would be a catastrophe, rather than it just being significantly unpleasant.
Imagining yourself spiraling into a deep depression.
Imagining yourself never finding love, and imagining that if this happens you will be plagued by intense feelings of loneliness 24/7 from now until you die.
Equating some type of mild to moderate social rejection with being totally shunned by all desirable people.


Telltale Signs of Anxious Rumination

You feel worse instead of better.
Compulsive need to think and say the same things repeatedly.
Inertia, inability to take action.
Feeling of urgency and paralyzing high stakes.
“Catastrophizing,” feeling of fear and dread.
Thinking is expansive and unfocused -multiplying rather than reducing your anxiety.
Thinking is continuous and pressured, without a beginning and end, and without leading to solutions or resolution.
Feeling of depressive anxiety, defeat, roadblocks.
Feeling overwhelmed and needing to solve everything at once.
Need for constant reassurance.
Friends and family are impatient and want to avoid talking to you.
Signs of Actual Problem-Solving

Ability to generate a range of ideas and solutions.
Ability to take some action.
Feeling of momentum or progress, hope.
Flexibility, variability of thoughts.
Tolerance of ambiguity and range of possible outcomes.
Seeking help from others in an open-minded, collaborative way.
Ability to take one step at a time.
Ability to set limits on problem-solving time.
Ability to bear anxiety without escalating or needing to get rid of it.


God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.

Living one day at a time;
enjoying one moment at a time;
accepting hardships as the pathway to peace;
taking, as He did, this sinful world
as it is, not as I would have it;
trusting that He will make all things right
if I surrender to His Will;
that I may be reasonably happy in this life
and supremely happy with Him
forever in the next.
reinhold niebuhr (1892-1971)