Sin and Grace : Sin #6 – Envy
Sin 6 – Envy
Envy is the intense desire to have an item that someone else possesses. Kindness helps slake envy by placing the desire to help others above the need to supersede them.
Domina and her male sub were trying to deal with their past Christian hang ups and become more pagan in their thoughts. So they thought they’d do some work revolving around the sins.
Sub had been lusting over a car he had seen in a driveway or parking lot somewhere.. And TBH Domina didn’t blame him. It was a gorgeous gold Jaguar sports coupe! I mean, what’s not to love?? At first, they chatted about the car, pretty much equally. When it was about the car. The looks, you know?
But then sub went off on what it’d be like to actually own the car. That is about when Domina started to back away. I mean the money would be horrible, not only in lay out, but also in maintenance and repair. Yeah, no. Domina was known to be a bit chintzy when it came to her wallet.
And then there was the good that that amount of money could do for someone in need. It just seemed wrong somehow. Pretty? Gawd yes! Own it? Not if she was the Queen of England herself (not that the Queen actually owns anything herself, it’s the crown that does, the Windsor line) could she justify it. And she had no intention of paying for it in charity or kindness. She’d keep her runabout. She’d work for her own benefit. Not that she was selfish…
BUT this was a teachable moment, and a focus she could use for envy, the next sin.
So… Domina found some books on heraldic principles, morals, ethics and noblesse oblige. And dumped them in front of sub. Sub went oops! And guessed what his next few nights would consist of. When Domina gave him a book, he read it and prepared a brief on the book for her to review and see if she wanted to read it as well. He did have more time and he was her sub after all…. And he loved reading too.
When the books were read, and Domina had read the briefs, they had a good discussion about the haves and have nots. And what the principles of that exchange were. The largest one being that in order for one to have too much, or more than they need, another must go without. The more divergence there is between them, the more likely the person who does without could actually be in peril due to their lack.
And the more likely the person with too much wouldn’t actually appreciate what they had, or even see the person who was lacking. That was the true cost of the divergence of goods and resources on the people involved. (author’s note – My sociology 101 prof would be proud)
Domina knew that sub wasn’t really greedy or selfish, and when he understood the cost of having more than he needed, Domina started noticing that sub was sorting thru his stuff and donating more. And Domina kind of regretted doing this lesson now, instead of before he moved.
But that wasn’t the grace involved with envy, though it was with noblesse oblige, morals and ethics. And she had to actually think about how to increase his kindness, or even if she needed to. He was courtly, polite, charitable and shared better than she did. And she wasn’t a slacker. He gave without thought to friends and family. And was generous of spirit. He had a good heart. He even watched his words, only expressing the positive ones. Domina often thought he should be a dominant as well. But that wasn’t who he was. So she left it.
So instead, this time, Domina did something to show him a kindness. Since he had gotten the point, without the lesson for the grace.
Sometimes you just had to be the one showing a change to get the sub’s respect. Work on yourself too.
Domina cleaned out her own cupboards, the little she kept, and went to a woman’s shelter with them. She knew just how lucky she was in being safe. Being loved. And she spent some time helping the ladies there learn about leadership skills that’d help them in every aspect of their life. Parenting, peer relationships and career planning. And who knows, maybe even in their sexual and physical autonomy. It was a women’s only shelter, so she couldn’t let her subs go with her. But she told them some ID- edited stories about how the women came to be at the shelter. And she saw that it had a profound effect on them, which was all to the good. They became more alert to how the women around them felt about their interactions. And Domina was even prouder of them than ever.
And sub? He got a full service body rub from Domina. For being such a good soul.
… the principles
“noble” is someone who has high morals and ideals or people who are royalty or who have good breeding. An example of noble is a person who is always honest and charitable. An example of noble is a king.
** “noblesse oblige”** referred to the unwritten obligation of people from a noble ancestry to act honorably and generously to others.
“Nobility” – the quality of being exalted in character or ideals or conduct. You could argue it’s about good looks, talent, ability.
Each must be earned:
“royal obligation” – something by which a person is bound to do certain things, and which arises out of a sense of duty or results from custom, law, etc. 2. something done or to be done for such reasons: to fulfill one’s obligations. 3. a binding promise, contract, sense of duty, etc.
nine noble virtues of Asatru
Nietzsche argued that there were two fundamental types of morality: “master morality” and “slave morality”. Master morality values pride and power, while slave morality values things like kindness, empathy, and sympathy.
“First do no harm”
either help or do not harm
“I will keep them from harm and injustice.”
The Bible – Sermon on the Mount: “All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them.” The Mosaic law contains a parallel commandment: “Whatever is hurtful to you, do not do to any other person.”