Final Chapter of Sin and Grace (10): Just Sin?

Final Chapter of Sin and Grace (10):

Just Sin?

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Domina and her male sub had been trying to deal with their past Christian hang ups and become more pagan in their thoughts. So they had done some work revolving around the sins.

And once the work was done, they decided to reward themselves with a CFnm party.
In case you’ve never been to one, the idea is for scantily dressed men to serve fully clothed women. Domina’s sisters preferred their subs and slaves to have a thong on under their cute service aprons. Who wants junk in their tea, after all?

That was the usual. Today when the subs arrived, they were given either white wings with a shoulder harness to hold them on or black ones. The ladies cheered when they saw their subs. Some wanted to be served by those with white wings and some with black wings.It worked out to be fairly equal.

Domina gave each of her sisters a hostess gift, which included a brief on the sins and graces, the work that was done, and a list of the books that were read. As well as sub’s briefs. And she gave them a gag and whip, in case their sub preferred puniishment to lessons.

The tea was poured, the tasty treats were served, and the subs did a little dance show for the ladies. They found some Halloween music and some wild and devilish stuff as well. The ladies were clapping and cheering.

One of the Dominant ladies and her sub offered him up to be the tray for the ladies, as they had done in the Lust and Gluttony tale gathering. And it was graciously accepted. So out came the cans of cream and sprinkles to decorate him with, and the ladies had fun licking and tickling him with it.

To wrap the night up, the ladies had quite a chat about the sins and Domina mentioned that she thought they were based on fear. They weren’t really “sins” per se. A few others agreed that it made sense.

And the night wound down to an end. Sub was given an honour guard of subs who each swatted his bum as he passed thru their lines. So he would remember his “graduation day”. Domina received a dozen roses. They were both beaming. And Domina was proud to hear that a few of her sisters intended to try these lessons as well.

A job well done then. And fun had by all.

~the end~

Sin and Grace : Sin #7 – Pride (erotica/ish)

Sin and Grace : Sin #7 – Pride

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Sin 7 – Pride
Pride is an excessive view of one’s self without regard for others. Humility cures pride by removing one’s ego and boastfulness, cultivating an attitude of service.

Domina and her male sub were trying to deal with their past Christian hang ups and become more pagan in their thoughts. So they thought they’d do some work revolving around the sins.

Domina and sub were feeling kind of proud of themselves for all their work on the sins and graces as they rolled up to the finish line with pride, the last sin. But not in a bad way. They had done some hard work, and deserved a pat on the back.

And that is the beginning of the issue. The first question: When do you see yourself honestly, with all your strengths and weaknesses, all your talents and flaws, and be proud of your growth? Without becoming fixated on it as if

  1. you are solely responsible: Noone exists in a vaccuum, do they?
  2. as if you are the star in the night sky, to the exclusion of all others
  3. and as if you deserve something extra than a pat on the back. A larger piece of the pie.
  4. And as if others around you who don’t have this skill are now lesser than you.

That was the distinction between pride, that was natural for yourself and your growth as you succeeded in life, and grandiosity.

The priest or nun, the king or prince, the chief of a tribe, the members of parliament, the teacher, or whoever was in charge, was actually a servant to the people in their charge. And woe-betide them if they ever thought otherwise. They still shared the same pie with everyone else, and really were deserving of no more, as a human, than the others. Unless they were giving to the group, thru charity or some other means.

Both Domina and sub were fairly versed in philosophy and managed to frame their thoughts on pride from a few theorists and schools of thought. (see references below the story) And had quite a cool discussion of their place in that thinking.

Domina asked sub to write out his view of himself. His strengths and weaknesses, talents and flaws. See how well his idea of who he was and what he had to offer was the same as hers of him. She was curious how much of that list would focus on their relationship. And how much would be about his career and other obligations and relationships he had.

When she read it, Domina was pleased to see what she thought was a realistic and general view of his life and assets.

Then Domina had him assess what he could offer others, as a leader. And how he could serve his community, either as a mentor or in some charitable act. How much time and energy he had to offer others. What resources in wealth and property he had to offer them. But not at the cost of he himself having a quality life. This work wasn’t meant to make him a wandering monk or starving artist. Just to look around and see how he could serve those around him.

Domina was pleased to see he had a good sense of what was possible. So the next thing she asked of him was a plan to implement these things. Sub saw she was deadly serious about this. And wondered aloud if she intended to do the same exercise. Domina thought for a minute, then said yes. Fully meaning it. She couldn’t hold herself above him by refusing this specific task. So she set about to do her work and showed it to him for suggestions as he had to her.

They gave each other 2 weeks to implement the plan and set a reporting date for every 2 months, to see if there were any issues.

And put the file aside till then. For now, pride was done. To be revisited at a later date.

Domina thought they deserved a reward and set about planning a party now that all the sins were done. They invited the sisters and their subs over for a high protocol dinner. A CFnm party of course. Domina and her subs started looking forward to the party and shopping hit the top of the list. But it was for their community, for their friends. So though not exactly charitable, it was shared among their own. So nobody felt any guilt over it. Least of all Domina and her sub that had gone on this journey together.

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It was Pride that changed angels into devils; it is humility that makes men as angels. – St. Augustine

entitlement, narcissism *delusions of grandiosity”, privilege, pride vs self confidence – debasement of self vs masochism
human rights, decency, codes, position, power – Why do you feel you are owed more than your fair share of the resources that belong equally to everyone? (biases of gender, sexual orientation, class, race, age…)
violence, self defence – Why do you feel your life, your needs, have more value than someone else’s?
Situational ethics or situation ethics takes into account the particular context of an act when evaluating it ethically, rather than judging it according to absolute moral standards.

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Self-interest refers to actions that elicit personal benefit. Economist Adam Smith was primarily the first person to study self-interest in economics, leading to his Invisible Hand Theory.

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Thomas Hobbes famously said that in a “state of nature”, human life would be “solitary, poor, nasty, brutish and short”. In the absence of political order and law, everyone would have unlimited natural freedoms, including the “right to all things” and thus the freedom to plunder, rape and murder; there would be an endless “war of all against all” (bellum omnium contra omnes).

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John Locke and Jean Jacques Rousseau said we gain civil rights in return for accepting the obligation to respect and defend the rights of others, giving up some freedoms to do so

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Leo Tolstoy argued that anarchism must be nonviolent since it is, by definition, opposition to coercion and force, and that since the state is inherently violent, meaningful pacifism must likewise be anarchistic.

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Henry David Thoreau “The question is not about the weapon, but the spirit in which you use it.”

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Niccolo Machiavelli proposed that immoral behavior, such as dishonesty and the killing of innocents, was normal and effective in politics. He also notably encouraged politicians to engage in evil when it would be necessary for political expediency.

Love

Sin and Grace : Sin #6 – Envy (erotica/ish)

 

Sin and Grace : Sin #6 – Envy

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Sin 6 – Envy
Envy is the intense desire to have an item that someone else possesses. Kindness helps slake envy by placing the desire to help others above the need to supersede them.

Domina and her male sub were trying to deal with their past Christian hang ups and become more pagan in their thoughts. So they thought they’d do some work revolving around the sins.

Sub had been lusting over a car he had seen in a driveway or parking lot somewhere.. And TBH Domina didn’t blame him. It was a gorgeous gold Jaguar sports coupe! I mean, what’s not to love?? At first, they chatted about the car, pretty much equally. When it was about the car. The looks, you know?

But then sub went off on what it’d be like to actually own the car. That is about when Domina started to back away. I mean the money would be horrible, not only in lay out, but also in maintenance and repair. Yeah, no. Domina was known to be a bit chintzy when it came to her wallet.

And then there was the good that that amount of money could do for someone in need. It just seemed wrong somehow. Pretty? Gawd yes! Own it? Not if she was the Queen of England herself (not that the Queen actually owns anything herself, it’s the crown that does, the Windsor line) could she justify it. And she had no intention of paying for it in charity or kindness. She’d keep her runabout. She’d work for her own benefit. Not that she was selfish…

BUT this was a teachable moment, and a focus she could use for envy, the next sin.

So… Domina found some books on heraldic principles, morals, ethics and noblesse oblige. And dumped them in front of sub. Sub went oops! And guessed what his next few nights would consist of. When Domina gave him a book, he read it and prepared a brief on the book for her to review and see if she wanted to read it as well. He did have more time and he was her sub after all…. And he loved reading too.

When the books were read, and Domina had read the briefs, they had a good discussion about the haves and have nots. And what the principles of that exchange were. The largest one being that in order for one to have too much, or more than they need, another must go without. The more divergence there is between them, the more likely the person who does without could actually be in peril due to their lack.

And the more likely the person with too much wouldn’t actually appreciate what they had, or even see the person who was lacking. That was the true cost of the divergence of goods and resources on the people involved. (author’s note – My sociology 101 prof would be proud)

Domina knew that sub wasn’t really greedy or selfish, and when he understood the cost of having more than he needed, Domina started noticing that sub was sorting thru his stuff and donating more. And Domina kind of regretted doing this lesson now, instead of before he moved.

But that wasn’t the grace involved with envy, though it was with noblesse oblige, morals and ethics. And she had to actually think about how to increase his kindness, or even if she needed to. He was courtly, polite, charitable and shared better than she did. And she wasn’t a slacker. He gave without thought to friends and family. And was generous of spirit. He had a good heart. He even watched his words, only expressing the positive ones. Domina often thought he should be a dominant as well. But that wasn’t who he was. So she left it.

So instead, this time, Domina did something to show him a kindness. Since he had gotten the point, without the lesson for the grace.

Sometimes you just had to be the one showing a change to get the sub’s respect. Work on yourself too.

Domina cleaned out her own cupboards, the little she kept, and went to a woman’s shelter with them. She knew just how lucky she was in being safe. Being loved. And she spent some time helping the ladies there learn about leadership skills that’d help them in every aspect of their life. Parenting, peer relationships and career planning. And who knows, maybe even in their sexual and physical autonomy. It was a women’s only shelter, so she couldn’t let her subs go with her. But she told them some ID- edited stories about how the women came to be at the shelter. And she saw that it had a profound effect on them, which was all to the good. They became more alert to how the women around them felt about their interactions. And Domina was even prouder of them than ever.

And sub? He got a full service body rub from Domina. For being such a good soul.

… the principles

“noble” is someone who has high morals and ideals or people who are royalty or who have good breeding. An example of noble is a person who is always honest and charitable. An example of noble is a king.
** “noblesse oblige”** referred to the unwritten obligation of people from a noble ancestry to act honorably and generously to others.
“Nobility” – the quality of being exalted in character or ideals or conduct. You could argue it’s about good looks, talent, ability.

Each must be earned:
Courage.
Honesty.
Integrity.
Honour.
Respect.
Kindness.
Paitence.
“royal obligation” – something by which a person is bound to do certain things, and which arises out of a sense of duty or results from custom, law, etc. 2. something done or to be done for such reasons: to fulfill one’s obligations. 3. a binding promise, contract, sense of duty, etc.
nine noble virtues of Asatru
Nietzsche argued that there were two fundamental types of morality: “master morality” and “slave morality”. Master morality values pride and power, while slave morality values things like kindness, empathy, and sympathy.
Hippocrates –
“First do no harm”
either help or do not harm
“I will keep them from harm and injustice.”
The Oath
The Bible – Sermon on the Mount: “All things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them.” The Mosaic law contains a parallel commandment: “Whatever is hurtful to you, do not do to any other person.”

Sin and Grace : Sin #5 – Wrath (erotica/ish)

 

Sin and Grace : Sin #5 – Wrath

Sin 5 – Wrath
Wrath is strong anger or hate towards another person. It is said we should cultivate patience by first understanding the needs and desires of others before acting or speaking.

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Domina and her male sub were trying to deal with their past Christian hang ups and become more pagan in their thoughts. So they thought they’d do some work revolving around the sins.
And it seemed that lately sub was having problems controlling his frustration and hurt, so he became angry much too quickly.

So Domina asked him to participate in a martial arts class. Which may seem counter to the concept, but actually the first things they teach are defense and self-regulation. They also teach that violence is a last resort.

And it didn’t hurt any, that Domina happened to like watching two men of fairly equal ability fight. Well, spar really. So win-win for her if he did well.

Sub was also taken to places where people gathered who had less than 100% ability. And practice being aware and alert to their needs. Without them telling him, and without intruding on their autonomy. She made it clear that in order to solicit his help, they had to be in need, and unable to do it themselves. She saw this as a chance to develop his intuition, kindness and empathy as well as patience.

She also thought it’d balance out the martial arts. So he saw the greater goal of defense of others, before his own pride or anger was called into play.

Sub was exhausted by a lot of these activities, but also was taking pride in the improvement he showed in these skillsets. And saw that Domina was proud of him as well.

And to both their benefit, Domina usually wanted to have sex with him after he had shown a new skill at martial arts classes. Or won a match. So sub was getting good sex and earning his belts! Win-win!

And it did actually teach him why he needed to calm down as well.

But not quite fast enough for Domina, so she enrolled them both in couples’ yoga, that included a lot of meditative work. She thought her participation with him was a good idea. And she liked the classes as well.

The yoga did the last bit towards sub being a calmer person, and less likely to get angry when his feelings were upset. Though some might say, it was due to him getting laid more often? lol

Sometimes good things, like rewards, teach too!

Sin and Grace: Just Sin? (Greed and Sloth) – erotica

 

Sin and Grace: Just Sin? (Greed and Sloth)

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Domina and her male sub were trying to deal with their past Christian hang ups and become more pagan in their thoughts. So they thought they’d do some work revolving around the sins.

Domina saw something in greed and sloth that she thought needed some work as well, that was more specific to sub’s sexual service.

Sub seemed to be overly reliant on having the latest and best of sex toys, rather than a good hand, a good set of lips and some imagination and diligence.

So Domina told him to leave his bag of tricks at home when next he came to visit her. All he was allowed to bring was the clothes he wore.

Much to his chagrin, he was under orders not to use viagra either. He was dumbfounded. Nothing he usually prepared with was acceptable to Domina for this weekend. He was kind of hurt, as a matter of fact.

But he went and stood at the door waiting for Domina to tell him what to do, what was expected.

Domina hugged him to reassure him that all was well, and took him into the bedroom. She pointed out a warming gel, and some lotion. And she said, “I like massages. Would you give me one?”

Sub lit up and said of course!

And helped Domina strip off her clothes. Then spent the next hour and a bit making her body hyper aware of his hands. And occasionally his tongue when he got to the naughty bits. But she backed away if he tried to do more than tease her.

Then Domina sat up and said, “I like baths. Would you help me clean all this oil off me, please?”

Sub lit up again, and said of course!

He ran the bath and laid out her fave soap, shampoo and her moisutrizing cream. And helped her get in.

He gently washed her hair, then her body neck to toes. And lit some candles and sang to her softly as she soaked for a bit. Domina was obviously relaxed and smiling softly, with her eyes closed.

After a bit, she sat up and asked for the cream. He rubbed it all over her and made sure it was soaked in as the water drained. Then he towelled her dry.

Next they went into the kitchen and Domina asked him to make her a salad and some eggs. Which he was happy to do. The salad had some nectarines, cherry tomatoes and grapes in. Every time Domina found one, he fed it to her. With his fingers. Sometimes he rubbed it over her cheeks and lips first, which got them both giggling. He tried to rub her breasts once, but she shook her head no. So he licked her cheeks clean instead, which of course led to kissing.

And then they went into the den, and Domina laid on the fur rug in front of the fire. And motioned for sub to join her. They acted like teenagers who were on a chastity pledge. Lots of kissing and cuddling. A little “petting”.

They were both really aroused, and not one toy had been used.

Finally, Domina took him back to the bedroom and asked him if he wanted to have sex with her?

Well duh!

Domina waited for his yes, then said he was only allowed to use his hands and mouth. They could tickle each other, lick, massage… they could even use the sheets as a toy to tease each other. But that was it.

It didn’t take long for them to be very very aroused.

After all that pleasure and teasing, who wouldn’t be? And that is when she said he could use his penis. OMG! He practically dove into her! But she slammed the breaks on and made him start slow, hold out as long as possible. Even though she was getting hot too.

When they finally started orgasming, sub was surprised that it was so intense. But they were so connected to each other now, that the orgasm was the final mountain they went over together. Rather than the goal. It was a sexual journey. And the sexiest thing he looked at all day and night? It was her eyes as she came unglued for him.

And sub learned the lesson. It isn’t about the tools, it’s about the journey. At least sometimes

Sin and Grace : Sin #4 – Sloth (erotica/ish)

 

Sin and Grace : Sin #4 – Sloth

Sin 4 – Sloth
Sloth is excessive laziness or the failure to act and utilize one’s talents. Diligence or zeal is the antidote to slothfulness.

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Domina and her male sub were trying to deal with their past Christian hang ups and become more pagan in their thoughts. So they thought they’d do some work revolving around the sins.
And the next was sloth.

Domina was a bit of a mind junkie. Anything that had to do with dynamics, schema, intelligence… personality and moods. That was the kind of reading she did. And often she sent little briefs to her subs about the reading of the day. Sub had gotten quite hooked on these briefs. And when sloth came up, he reminded her that sometimes what appeared as laziness was often perfectionism. According to her brief one day. It had really resonated with him.

Sometimes someone got so stumped by what to do first, or so caught up in the details that they froze. Whether it was self-confidence or passive-aggressive self-defeating behaviour, it was irrelevant why, if it impeded their progress.

So Domina reviewed the brief sub meant and thought about her aim for this sin.

Sub was kind of disorganized about his work, and often had a messy work area. Which certainly could be self-defeating. If he spent so much time looking for what he neded next, he might lose impetus in the work. Because who wanted to spend an hour searching, before they could do the work? So his procrastination got worse, and he was barely making his deadlines at times.

So Domina had him start a housecleaning job for a charity that helped special people get their houses or apts in order. People with mental or physical illnesses, or people who were dying. They could no longer manage on their own. And didn’t really have any support. Sub started to realize what a mess meant to some people. It meant they could lose their homes, their children, maybe even fall and be further injured.

After a couple weeks of this, sub went home one day, and cleaned out all his closets. And piled together the stuff that was needed together. And everything that wasn’t really needed was in a donate or garbage pile. And he actually followed thru. All because he was able to do it when the charity clients could not. And he felt guilty for it.

Domina smiled when he told her and took her on a tour of the project. His closets were immaculate. And so was his work station.

Now he could get down to work. Easily! Which he really liked.

So Domina went to the next stage of sloth, based on something sub had been asking for for awhile. He wanted a sissy dress. And the one he wanted was one of those old-fashioned, lace and pleat styles, that are a nuisance to maintain. And previously, she just didn’t think sub would do the work required. It’d be a shame if the dress got wrecked because he wasn’t doing the work.

And Domina found a pair of patent leather shoes to go with the dress. In a style that was reminiscent of the original era of the dress. And if you know leather, you know it needs to be kept clean and shined.

So with sub having learned the importance of organization and found keeping the organization helped him do the work, she gave him the dress to iron and the shoes to polish. And took some awesome pictures of him wearing them with a cute wig and cape of the era.

And Domina kept an eye out to be sure he kept up on the maintenance.

And he did! As a result, he got to live out his sissy fantasy with her. Win-win!

Sin and Grace : Sin #3 – Greed (erotica/ish)

 

Sin and Grace : Sin #3 – Greed

Sin 3 – Greed
Greed is an excessive pursuit of material goods. Religious orders advocate charity to combat greed by putting the desire to help others above storing up treasure for one’s self.

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Domina and her male sub were trying to deal with their past Christian hang ups and become more pagan in their thoughts. So they thought they’d do some work revolving around the sins.
And greed was next on the list.

Sub was a tech-junkie. He was obsessed with the “next” “new” thing, whatever it was. Which might be ok, for some. But he was getting ready to move, and still adding to his collection. While packing.

Sub had collections ongoing from his DJ and KJ days, when he hadn’t done either in years. And that might be ok, but he had 2-3 versions of the same disc or tape, in case there was wear and tear, or a scratch or broken one. Stuff happens when you’re putting your stuff into other people’s hands. But when you are simply playing them in your own safe home? Not so much!

So Domina put a moratorium on any purchases till he was unpacking at his new place. His only out was to sort thru and delete if he bought anything new. And there were a couple times when there was a sale on. Sub was going thru his collection now to see if there were songs that weren’t as popular as he had thought they might be. All the replicas were gone. And he was getting panicky that he might run out of choices before he moved.

What did he do with the stuff he wasn’t keeping, you might ask? Well, the opposite of greed is charity. But this kind of stuff isn’t exactly something you take to your local rag shop or tip. So he found some kids starting out in the biz, and gave or sold for dirt cheap. Depending if the kid was willing to accept charity. Some people are proud after all.

One week before the move, sub was out of replicas and out of the one-hit-wonders and B side songs. And there was a sale on! He didn’t know what to do! So he went to Domina for advice. Or maybe a reprieve?

Domina refused the reprieve, though she was impressed with his diligence. And made a note to herself to get him a present as a reward.

They put their heads together and thought of a way he could be charitable and keep what he had collected. As well as get something new. They came up with the idea of him DJing for a fashion show that a local charity was having. And he offered his services and time for free. And the benefit of all this sorting was he had an updated catalogue.

When he arrived, the organizer was in a tizzy because one of the models had backed out. He offered to model their items. But was a little distressed when he found out they were lingerie items for men. TG they were more like boxers or briefs, so he held to his promise.

Sub had never received so many wolf whistles in his life! And he had previously thought his Domina’s sister Dommes were bad!

Sub got his butt smacked too. By the end of the night, he felt well and truly spanked. And all four of his cheeks were red. He wasn’t much into spanking, but he liked the flirting and sexy attention that went with them. And the ladies were pretty hot! So he endured. And the organizer asked if he’d be willing to participate again next year. Sub checked with Domina and when he had cleared it, said yes.

It was a cheeky fun night and he’d had fun. And he got to pick up some new stuff at the sale too. His move went better than expected, due to the paring down.

So all around it was win-win.

And his present for doing such a good job adhering to the challenge? Domina bought him a new program for his laptop, so he could keep a copy of everything he had on that for safety.

Sub was thrilled! And pared down a bit more on the hard copies.

Sin and Grace: Just Sin? (Lust and Gluttony) – erotica

Sin and Grace: Just Sin? (Lust and Gluttony)

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Domina and her male sub were trying to deal with their past Christian hang ups and become more pagan in their thoughts. So they thought they’d do some work revolving around the sins.

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Domina thought there might be another way to work at these sins though and she called a few female dominant friends with an invitation for tonight to play it out.

Then she texted sub to be hairless from the neck down, which was unusual for her. She liked a bit of “fluff” usually. But sub complied to this oddity. He was also invited to serve her and her lady friends get-together.

Sub thought it’d be the usual, with him carrying trays of bevvies and food, while getting groped by the ladies. Since he’d just be wearing a thong and an apron.

When all parties said yes, Domina went to the grocery store and picked up hor d’oeuvres, berries, grapes, black cherries, olives, pineapple slices, and cheese cubes. A bit of savoury and a bit of sweet. She picked up some chocolate and coloured sprinkles and cans of cream as well, for the ladies to add if they had a sweet tooth.

When sub arrived, Domina took him by the hand and led him to the front dining room, with the big oak table in it. Covered in her cheap plastic table cloths, which she never used for her guests. Esp not her sister dominants.

Sub was told he had two choices. He could serve her sisters in the usual way, or he could be the human “tray” for their celebration.

Domina watched sub’s eyes bulge, and his skin flush. She knew he was kind of shy and didn’t really like being nude around the ladies. So she was waiting to see what his decision would be, with bated breath.

She was almost as surprised as he was when he said he would be the “tray”. And she saw him go even more red.

Sub stripped and laid on the table, as Domina and another sub of hers quickly laid out the foodstuffs.

And the ladies started arriving…

Sub was a bit squirmy at times as they licked the cream off his hairless skin, and as they groped his nipples and package. It was a long, very long, session of sensual torture and edging at times. But sub was in seventh heaven. And Domina was proud of his self control.

Sin and Grace : Sin #2 – Gluttony (erotica/ish)

 

Sin and Grace : Sin #2 – Gluttony

…… Sin 2 – Gluttony

Gluttony is excessive and ongoing eating of food or drink. Temperance is used to curb gluttony by implanting the desire to be healthy.

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Domina and her male sub were trying to deal with their past Christian hang ups and become more pagan in their thoughts. So they thought they’d do some work revolving around the sins.
Gluttony was their next sin.

Domina noticed that sub was eating too many sweets, one in particular. It was his fave dessert. Chocolate cake. It might have been ok normally. But it came in handy as their aim for the sins. So she decided to work with him on the cake.

Domina and sub decided the path of exporing this together. If sub wanted the cake, he had to eat it out of a dog bowl, with water in the other bowl. He would do this alone in the kitchen, while Domina had a healthier option in the study.

Or… sub could join Domina in the study and have the healthier option.

Domina was pretty sure which her sub would pick. She knew he loved his cake. The choices were stacked against her. Well maybe. Time would tell.

Sub chose the kitchen and dog bowls. And that was ok the first day, but he missed Domina. It was only for a few minutes. But the few minutes got longer. The cake didn’t taste as good out of a doggy dish.

Frankly, sub ate with his eyes too. The dog bowls just weren’t cutting it. And the yogurt and fruit option Domina was having was on bone china. Which she probably did just to make it pretty. Usually she ate it from a cereal bowl in the kitchen. He actually was regretting his choice. So he went with Domina the next night. They had a lovely chat and ate the healthier option. He kind of missed the cake, but not so much he wanted to miss out on the time with Domina.

Though it might have had something to do with the facts that he wasn’t really into being a pet or into punishment or shaming. More often than not, sub joined Domina for the healthier option. To the point where Domina let him eat the cake on a plate again, but still in the kitchen alone.

So it might work for him? But not every sub.

Sin and Grace : Sin #1 – Lust (erotica/ish)

Sin and Grace : Sin #1 – Lust

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Sin 1 – Lust
Lust is a strong passion or longing, especially for sexual desires. Chastity or self-control is said to cure lust by controlling passion and leveraging that energy for other things (or people).

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Domina and her male sub were trying to deal with their past Christian hang ups and become more pagan in their thoughts. So they thought they’d do some work revolving around the sins. And lust seemed a good place to start.
In femdom, chastity seemed to be the common way to deal with this issue, but neither Domina or her sub thought that cages taught you anything about SELF-control. And neither thought they were the do-nothing type either.

So they agreed to work on it another way. By using edging. Sometimes teaching you where the line was between sin and grace was best done by crossing over it. Excess. So long as someone was there to bring you back, if you couldn’t manage it yourself. And Domina promised to be there for him, if he went too far.

Sub was ready and figured this would be a sinch. He’d never had a problem masturbating. But their deal was, that whenever he had an urge, he had to address it urgently by edging.

He should have known better… Trying to keep his insane schedule that rarely let him go out with friends or meet with Domina and edging everytime he had an itch? 😛

It’s not like he could just yank his penis out, like a bonobo in the forest. Where the other bonobos might glance, but unless he was after their hiny, they just went back to whatever they were doing and ignored him. Oh no! He had to be an adult human, traversing the social world.

And everytime he had an urge, he had to leave the room, find a private place and edge himself. He found himself leaving go-trains, buses, conferences and meetings with clients. And people were getting annoyed with him. And he couldn’t tell them what was going on. Not even his best friend.

Sub did his best to keep to his word and work, but actually found he had to take a few days off just to succeed.

Funny thing is the more he edged, the less he wanted to. His penis was getting sore, he was actually developing a bad case of carpel tunnel and he was almost caught several times. once by the police. When he told Domina, she started calling him George Michael, or PeeWee Herman. Even in front of other people. They didn’t explain why though. Boy did they get some odd looks.

So Domina didn’t need to convince him that there were good reasons to show restraint. He had to ice his wrists, soothe his cock with salves and creams. And nearly scream when he had a hard on.

Yeah lust was a treasure, but restraint made it a treasure worth having.