the interactions of men and women, in feminism

the interactions of men and women, in feminism

As we shift from patriarchy to something that reflects the social changes of men and women in our new power dynamics, we get more men involved in feminist discussions. Which is great, when they have good intentions. But that’s not always the case.

And it’s great when we’re still the decision-makers, and they just support us, encourage us, in our efforts. As we define our roles, language, and new social dynamics. As we stand independently, on wobbly legs if we have to at first. As we see to our own safety and growth.

It’s even great when they take on the roles of teachers and mentors to us. So long as they let us learn to do it, rather than take over for us. So long as they only take that role on when we ask for their assistance.

But even the most well-meaning of men can intrude at times. Without even including those who are covering up/deflecting attention from their bad attitudes/acts or trying to act out their hero complex. (typical patterns are defined below)

We as women need to recognize the symptoms, so we can properly block anything negative that is done. So we can be our own leaders. So we can write our own destiny.
We as women don’t want to be bullied into things or sent into panic-states so they can save us either. We want to think for ourselves. We want to drive.

That’s not too much to ask is it? And if they have good intentions, men who value us will step out of the way so we can.

I believe men and women can work together in the long run. I just think women need to do some talking first. So we as women stand together when we’re ready.

…. definitions

Merriam-Webster
misogyny
a hatred of women
misandry
a hatred of men

revelator
one that reveals especially : one that reveals the will of God
redeemer
thesaurus section – one that saves from danger or destruction
synonym – savior
chivalry
1: mounted men-at-arms
2 archaic a: martial valor b: knightly skill
3: gallant or distinguished gentlemen
4: the system, spirit, or customs of medieval knighthood
5: the qualities of the ideal knight : chivalrous conduct

Urban Dictionary
white knight
1) A man who stands up for a womens right to be an absolute equal, but then steps up like a white knight to rescue her any time that equality becomes a burden.
2) A man who Promotes gender equality but practices special privilege for women.
social justice warrior
A person who uses the fight for civil rights as an excuse to be rude, condescending, and sometimes violent for the purpose of relieving their frustrations or validating their sense of unwarranted moral superiority. The behaviors of Social justice warriors usually have a negative impact on the civil rights movement, turning away potential allies and fueling the resurgence of bigoted groups that scoop up people who have been burned or turned off by social justice warriors.
virtue signalling
To take a conspicuous but essentially useless action ostensibly to support a good cause but actually to show off how much more moral you are than everybody else.

healthyplace.com
gaslighting types
the Glamour Gaslighter, creates a special world just for you.
Good-Guy Gaslighters, need to appear good and reasonable while getting their own way.
and the Intimidators .bully, withhold and guilt-trip

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