Why people who are sexually assaulted do not report it to the police/courts:
Bottomline because they don’t think they’ll be:
– supported as they need
– or believed as they should be.
And tbh sometimes you have to consider **who** they are reporting to, whether they chose a doctor, a police officer or a crown attorney. A man. In 99% of the cases, the perpetrator is a man. When you’re sitting there in shock, horrified at what just happened to you by a man, could you sit across from a man and tell them everything that just happened?
Only to walk out somewhere thru this process and realize that only 1/1000 perpetrators actually end up in jail. And it’ll be a matter of **months** before they’re free. (min standards of sentence vary by place and cultural view of rape – [sentences av up to approx 5 yrs][https://criminal.findlaw.com/criminal-charges/sexual-assault-penalties-and-sentencing.html] demographics depend on race, class, gender etc and behaviour up to trial and once incarcerated as to what they actually serve.)
(So is it really a case of they’re innocent, if not proven guilty in a court of law? Yet that is the law)
I mean, would you tell?
So stop telling someone if they didn’t report it, it’s a lie. You are grossly misinformed and need an education.
[why don’t children “tell”][https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/matter-personality/201210/why-dont-child-sex-abuse-victims-tell]
then there’s [rape culture][https://fetlife.com/users/2654971/posts/4088290]
NB I’m not saying don’t report. But I sure understand why, if you don’t.
CAVEAT – The numbers/statistics as a method may bother you. But the motives of the victims is coming from people who deal with these issues everyday. As are their guestimates of the demographics.