beyond the moment bdsm

BDSM to me goes beyond the body and sexuality. It goes beyond a fun night at a play party and/or a dungeon/munch.

It’s about me growing as an individual.  Practicing the aspects that I am interested in learning.  Building the relationship(s) we need to have to have a healthy dynamic. Defining our goals so we can grow together.

And even beyond that, practicing sexual rites of worship. To open our minds, to create an intimate bond. Leaving the flogger and the sexuality in their rightful place as tools we use in conjunction with many others.  To create something respectful and intimate. As service, not only to each other, but also to our higher power/god(s)/community and each other.

BDSM in that context is about  lifetime goals and expressing our beliefs and cultural values. It is about our heart and souls. A place where you can’t just walk away at the end of the night, or the weekend. It’s more of a religion or a lifestyle than a play session. It defines who we are, better than bruises, punctures or burns do.  IMO

## . . . . influences

## . . . . moral code

[https://fetlife.com/users/2654971/posts/3714426]

## . . . . intimacy

[tantric sex][http://www.besthealthmag.ca/best-you/relationships/tantric-sex/]

[sex magick][http://www.llewellyn.com/journal/article/2262]

## . . . . bondage

[shibari][http://www.artofcontemporaryshibari.com/?page_id=29]

[kinbaku][https://creators.vice.com/en_uk/article/8qka45/kinbaku-japanese-rope-bondage]

[rope][https://www.shibariclasses.com/p/shibari]

## . . . . power

[energy play and vibration][http://askorpheusblack.blogspot.ca/2015/03/understanding-energy-play-vibration-and.html]

[hypnosis][https://www.hypnosisunlocked.com/hypnotic-seduction-techniques/]

## . . . . ownership

[scarification and branding][http://www.downandirty.org/site/sexualpractices/section/27/scarification-and-branding?warningshown=true]

[tattoos][http://stason.org/TULARC/art/body-art/tattoo/138-Getting-Tattooed-In-A-BDSM-Scene-Or-Relationship.html]

[piercing][http://www.bdsmcircle.net/dslifestyle/mygenitalpiercing.htm]

## . . . . gender

[sissification][http://exdomme.blogspot.ca/2012/09/gender-bending-cds-tvs-and-bit-of-help.html]

## . . . . ritual

[ceremony of the roses][https://sami69az.wordpress.com/2015/11/13/the-beauty-of-the-ceremony-of-the-roses-in-bdsm/]

[collaring ceremony][http://dominantguide.com/56/ceremony-from-the-heart-the-collaring-ceremony/]

[thoughtful or meditative service rituals][http://www.limitsunleashed.com/rituals-power-exchange/]