A lot of people use the word training …
In service, I can see a person needing to learn how to do the chores as their dominant wishes them to do.
*learn how to cook, what their favourite recipes are
*learn how to clean, what their standards are
*learn how to do laundry and mend
*learn how to budget and shop
In sexual service, it more likely means learning how this person likes things done. (ie felatio or cunnilingus – where to lick, nibble, touch… as this person likes it) or trying the kinks they like. See if you like their kinks.
It could also mean learning protocol and positions.
But ultimately, training at this level actually means finding out if the two of you are a good fit. Because actually, the dominant shouldn’t BE your trainer. If you want to be trained in how to be a submissive, then you should go to a submissive! IMO
Now if it’s tasks or kinks, you should have a platonic mentor. Ie roper teaches you how to rope,
This type of training is like advanced classes rather than general study.
IMO People who use the word training are telling you they want to test drive your car before they purchase it. Or telling you they want to date before they marry you. That’s ALL it means. It is so individualized you can’t go window shopping for a dominant or submissive and say one is doing it wrong and one is doing it right. What you mean to say is this one works for you.
This doesn’t mean you can’t tell in there when someone is being abused/harmed (also not getting your boundaries/consent respected) or neglected (not getting your needs met or being denied attention).
Some also say that you have to “break” a submissive. What do you think they are anyway? A wild horse?? If a submissive doesn’t want to serve or has a hostile attitude to their dominant, nothing you say or do will change that! You CAN break their mind, like a leg or arm can be broken. But that isn’t the same thing as training a wild horse to take the bit or the saddle. No reputable horse trainer steals the animal’s spirit which is what breaking them means IMO. The trainer teaches them that they are safe, to the point where the animal will follow directions because they trust the trainer.
TBH if anyone is being trained, in the early days, it’s more likely the dominant. They have to learn where the edges are in what they can do with this person who is now in their care. Isn’t that the most important thing in what we do?