Sent: Sunday, February 14, 2016 at 5:10 PM
Subject: self identity and the tou’s
SELF IDENTITY & THE TOU’s
by MsPeachieRocks about 2 years ago
1) We all reached puberty and at that point if not sooner, we started to explore our bodies. This means we masturbated. Found out what we liked and didn’t? Where our own erogenous zones were?
2) Some of us had “show and tell” experiences with our peers.
3) Or played “peeping tom/tomasina” when an older person who had passed maturity was in the shower etc. Found out what nude parts we were attracted to. If they were same or other gender.
4) Some of us got ahold of reading material/nude pix and “dirtied” the pages with our thoughts.
5) Some touched friends’ bodies and explored them. Jerking each other off, “pissing contests”, kissing games, 5 minutes in the closet, spin the bottle.
6) Some of us had same sex pairings when were in our later teens/early 20’s (or sooner). To determine where we were on the hetero/bi/homo scale.
7) Some of us were molested or raped and reacted to that experience. Some acted out sexually for a while.
8) Some predatory pimps took advantage of our youth, innocence and desperation to “trade” or make commerce with our bodies.
We all did some level of this to find out who we were as sexual beings. It is common growth experience and if discussing sexual safety and our past, don’t we need to be prepared to discuss this aspect? In terms of making the future safer for the next generations, don’t we need to make them aware of what is normal growth and what is predatory?
So doesn’t the TOU’s mean not glorifying but explaining? Not planning to act on a child but keeping them safe/armed with information instead?
WHERE IS THE LINE DRAWN WHEN REMINISCING/EDUCATING AND A TOU VIOLATION? What are your thoughts on that?
A couple more situations that would determine sexual development.
9) Gang activity – teens to early 20’s – esp for girls who could become “property” to the gang or “club” after some form of sexual initiation
Some form of institutionalization – group home, mental health facility, jail, prison, foster care where the child/teen would not be believed if they told and acts more like a virus among them than normal behaviour does.
10) Mental health issues – addictions and the group behaviour surrounding them could lead to sexual promiscuity and/or rape
impulse and conduct disorders – typically most prevalent in the teens and early 20’s also
schizophrenia, bipolar disorder and borderline personality disorder. Inappropriate behaviour and hypersexuality can be part of the conditions. Which could lead to people taking advantage.
Mostly these disorders begin in the teens-early 20’s or the 30’s.